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The desire to share and its ability are two different things

by | Jul 12, 2020 | Self-discovery, Spiritual life

In my work with the subconscious, it quickly crystallized out that each of us has 4 basic archetypes:

– the archetype of the inner child – the guardian of our imagination

– saboteur archetype – the guardian of our choices

– prostitute archetype – the guardian of our values

– an archetype of the victim – the guardian of our good self-esteem.

Of course, in addition to these, we have many more active and “dormant” archetypes.

Perhaps you are asking, yourself how for instance the archetype of the victim can be a guardian of your self-esteem?

Imagine that two people have the same desire to achieve a football championship. Their predispositions are identical. One of the trains shooting for an empty goal for a year and the other for a goal defended by an experienced goalkeeper. Who is more likely to reach the target? The answer is obvious because we develop best when we have to overcome obstacles and we have an opponent.

The archetype of the victim is such a goalkeeper, who through obstacles helps you train faith in yourself and facing your self.

Kabbalah divides our consciousness into the nature of sharing and receiving. Theoretically, a person as a victim willingly shares and receives little, but is it the truth?

The pure desire to share from the heart does not flow from the desire to receive (ego). In contrast, the position of the victim is an oversized ego.

What is ego? It’s thinking about yourself and your own needs. When you are a victim under the guise of helping others, sharing, and mercy, you want everything to revolve around you. Look how much I gave, how much I did, how poor I was, how much I am hurting.

Everything has to revolve around such a person – no matter how it turns – good or bad.

Giving from the sacrifice position is a benefit and does not come from the desire to share but from the desire to receive (ego0. There is always an expectation at the end.


The archetype of the victim is activated in each of us and each of us has already felt hurt in life. That’s how the victim works – something happened to me without my participation. I am effect and not cause. Although I am the director of this film, I am not responsible for the screen thread. Thus, we deprive ourselves of our causative power and decision-making.

When you once again withdraw from responsibility for the events of your own life or transfer responsibility to another person, or complain about the lack of balance in a relationship, ask yourself two questions:

  1. Since life is MY movie – why is this part of the scenario?
  2. From what position do I give? Am I sure about the purity of heart and desire to share or maybe there are some expectations and a claim position?

Remember the proverbial goalkeeper trains you only for the championship for a cup of self-confidence.


Picture thanks to Anthony Tran













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